I don’t know about you, but I’m a little exhausted this Christmas eve!
I’ve had the very best of intentions to blog more and share more of how my life is unfolding as a step mum in the past few weeks. Unfortunately the balancing act of work, family and personal time has shifted well towards my immediate family and well away from personal time.
My amazing husband
I can’t thank my husband enough for the support he shows me day in day out…even through the odd melt down. We are a great team and work hard to keep our relationship heading in the direction we both want. When you’ve experienced the same pain there is a very solid foundation to build a very healthy relationship on and for that I’m very thankful.
Giving, giving, giving
‘Tis the season to give right? And I do love to give. But you simply cannot give your all to everyone. I’ve been reminded that when you get close to the end of your giving tank (which is going to be different for everyone), you get tired. When you are tired, you start to expect others to give back to you to help top up the tank. The reality is that if you keep giving and expect others to give back just so you can continue giving…your tank will be totally dry and cracks will quickly show.
‘Me time’ isn’t a dirty word
It’s not and something that we encourage in our family. It’s time to sit in your own space and feel comfortable with who you are. It’s time to breath out any negativity and remind yourself how amazing and unique you are and how wonderful this life is. Now’s it’s time for me to take a leaf out of my own book and enjoy some me time over the next hectic few days of the Christmas and Boxing Day back and forth.
Here’s what I’ll do…
- I’ll wrote a blog post because it’s been on my mind for 3 weeks now…oh yay…it’s done
- I’ll bake Christmas cookies and ask the kids if they want to decorate them today…if not, I’ll enjoy decorating them
- I’ll make one last trip to the shops because I need Brioche to make french toast in the morning
- I’ll sit back and watch the kids open their presents on Christmas day knowing that I make a positive contribution to their lives (presents aside)
- I’ll go for coffee
- I’ll enjoy spending time with family and friends
- I’ll give myself a few days off from thinking about work
A Merry Step Christmas to you
There’s only one more sleep until the big guy slides down the chimney! Wherever in the world you are, what ever situation you find yourself in on this step-mum or dad journey, know that there are other step parents out there doing their very best, just as you are.
Merry Step Christmas